3 years ago I was the very definition of a socialite... As a 23 year old college student, I was often found club hopping in the streets of Atlanta or posing for pics in the VIP section of your favorite event. After moving to Texas, of course, my social life slowed down. I didn't know anyone in Dallas initially, but I soon made some friends and everything was back to normal (kinda).... I enrolled in my final semesters of school, joined Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and prepared to launch head first into my career by accepting a seemingly lucrative position at a growing event management company... Everything was perfect, or so it seemed...

Less than 2 months after finishing school and being fired from my "lucrative" job, I knew I was pregnant... I didn't get it confirmed until 2 months after that, but I knew well before it was confirmed. Although it was un-planned and I was unemployed, I was very excited and looked forward to becoming a mom... I had a very easy pregnancy, but needless to say, I had to give up my old ways of hanging out and partying... My lack of funds also made it pretty difficult to do anything... As a result, all the new "friends" I had fell out of touch and I was pretty much in the same position as before... No friends in Dallas... And this continues today... As a new mom, I really don't have any interest in partying anymore, but who doesn't enjoy a break and some time out with their peeps? All my peeps are in the A tho. So now when I want a break what do I do? I visit some of my favorite mom sites, or myspace, or facebook or... you get it... Hey, and least I can have virtual "friends" and an online social life...

Labels: alpha kappa alpha, facebook, friends, internet, life, myspace, social

Ok... So I have had like 6 friends and family members get engaged since Christmas, so I thought I would offer a bit of advice for planning the perfect wedding on a not so perfect budget. What makes me an expert in this area you ask? Nothing at all, but I am an event planner, have been engaged and am probably thriftier than both our grandmothers... so stay tuned...

So, lets say you are working with a budget of $1000. You can plan and execute a quality event with this limited budget in 3 easy steps.

1. Location, Location, Location - If it's Spring or Summer I suggest having an outdoor wedding. Contact your local parks and recreation department to inquire about area parks. Most offer some sort of shelter or maybe even a lake with an area to perform your cermony. What if it rains you ask... By corresponding with the parks dept. they should offer a contingency plan for this. Make sure to inquire about it when calling around and make sure it's covered in your contract if you sign one. For indoor weddings, again, just call around. Most churches will let you use their facility for a fee if you are not a member. If you choose to get married on a weekday, you could probably keep the total below $100 for your venue. Weekends are always more expensive. Lastly, if you have a friend or family member with a house and/or back yard, this could serve as the perfect location for an intimate ceremony. Best thing about this: they would probably let you use it for next to free, and you don't have to worry about what day you choose! But, don't forget about the minister. You should pay him around $100. And make sure you have proper arrangements if the location of the ceremony cannot convert into a reception venue... I would suggest having both at the same place tho...

2. It's All About The Clothes! - Now that you have the where figured out, you need to figure out what your gonna wear! Shopping for a wedding dress is no doubt one of the most exciting experiences a woman goes through. With a $1000 budget-- actually it's probably about $800 now-- I would start my dress search at the local thrift store. "Oh my God!", you say, "I would never in my life..." I love thrift stores anyway tho, but think about it... Most rich people wear there wedding dress one time and donate it along with all the rest of their expensive stuff they don't want anymore to charity. All this stuff ends up in thrift stores across the nation. If you have patience, and hand sanitizer, you can make some amazing finds.... You will have to get your dress altered to fit you perfectly regardless to if it's new or gently used, so start looking early and you may luck up! Also check out your local bridal boutiques and chain retailers (David's Bridal etc...)... Thay almost always have a $99 sale and a clearance rack. What if one of those $99 dresses is maked 30% off!!! You see where I'm going with this... Now on to your soon to be hubby's attire... You can find a nice suit for less than $100 at places like K&G, The Men's Warehouse, Macy's... You just have to shop around to find something that fits the theme of your wedding. You can find shoes for both of you for less than $50 at Payless or Target. Remember that your braidsmaids and groomsmen and all members of your wedding party are responsible for covering the costs of their attire. I suggest going to the paint department in Wal-Mart and choosing the color you want them to wear (Get some of those paint color sample thingies and give them to everyone). At this point, it is up to that person to find something in that specific color that fits them well and is within their budget... Once you have your dress and suit, you will need to have them altered to fit perfectly. Male sure to have this started early, as some can take months to complete. These prices vary, but call around and check references to find the best deal for you.

3. This Is So Beautiful... - Lets say you pay $100 for your dress, $100 for his suit, and $100 for 2 pairs of shoes... you should be working with about $500 now... We must decorate our venue. The first place you should go is the dollar store. Which one? All of them... you can find artificial flowers, rose petals, bows, table clothes, candles and candle holders... everything you need basically.... It will be a big task, but you can make your own bouquets, bouttaniers, center pieces and chair decorations.... Start early and have your bridal party pitch in... It'll be fun! I suggest Buying a lot of tea light candles and fake rose petals... just sprinkle those around the room and boom! Instant ambiance... You can buy an really inexpensive cake at Kroger or any local grocry store for like $50... You could always make one too, just go to your local bakery to see if they will sell you those little stands to hold up layers and the little people on top (they will)... Also, if you have a family like mine, they won't mind cooking for the big event... Or you could do it pot luck style and have each guest bring a dish. If you go this route, make sure you know what each person is bringing! I would make my reception BYOB if we had any liquor at all... If they want anything harder than the champaign provided to toast the new couple, they need to bring it themselves. The food and drinks are always the biggest wedding expense, so any way around this will help out your bottom line tremendously. You can buy a wedding cd for music...

So, I think that about covers it... I'm sure their are some knicks and knacks I left off, but this was just to get you started in the right direction... If you can plan and do all this with $1000, imagine how awesome of a wedding you could have for $5000.

The moral of the story: You don't have to spend you entire savings to have an amazing wedding!!! Mika, Kena, Daveka, Setara, Erika & Keyshia: Congratulations and I hope this helps!

Labels: $1000, budget, Marraige, perfect, planning, wedding